What types of behavior can I expect from my child?
Sleep disturbanceEating disorders
Acting out behaviors
Sexualized behaviors
Anger
Low self esteem
Inability to trust others or make friends
Fear in many situations
Does my child need counseling?
They may – every child reacts differently.Most children who are believed, supported and kept safe are able to get through this
They might need counseling now, do okay for awhile and then have an event that triggers some of the old feelings and need to get back into counseling.
Counseling is available at the Child Advocacy Center free of charge
Should I ask my child about what happened?
It is best to let your child decide when and how much to talk about their abuseJust be available
Is this my fault?
It’s natural to blame yourself, but this is not your fault.It’s not your child’s fault either
Why is my child so angry with me?
Kids often feel like their moms should have known and should have stopped it.Why didn’t she tell me about it?
A common question parents ask is “Why didn’t s/he tell me about it?” Children will often tell a teacher or a friend about the abuse before or instead of telling their parents/caregivers. This is not unusual, and it does not mean your child doesn’t trust or love you. Telling others can mean many things:Your child may not want to worry you.
They may be too embarrassed to tell you or may think that you would not be able to handle what has happened.
Your child may have been threatened to keep the abuse a secret.
Your child may be afraid they will be punished for doing something wrong.
They may think you won’t believe them.